Category Archives: Entertainment

Associations that organise against Women

Outspokenness and liberation of women seems like a distant dream, even today. Please read my previous post here. It amazes me that women who help each and support each other are conspired against.

I believe the famous Malayalam movie actor Dileep is arrested because he used Pulsar Suni to sexually abuse a famed Malayalam movie actress to teach her a lesson.

He wanted to get even with her mainly because she snitched to his ex wife about his affairs and several benaami transactions.

So a woman speaks up and she is taught to fall in line with the harshest means possible. Some men and women simply cannot tolerate a woman who is being just herself. Now I seem to understand why a lot of women are into people pleasing. Because the society just doesn’t accept you for who you are.

The society wants every woman and even children to conform to their imaginary roles. These roles are defined by rules which are strangely unwritten but still followed by almost everybody. Which means if anyone tries to step out of this conformity, they’re bound to be subjected to some kind of treatment or abuse that will ensure they fall in line.

Outspokenness is one thing which conformists do not do. Speaking your mind is a privilege for a few according to many conformists. So who are these few? Actor Dileep? Funny as it may seem. I think outspokenness is also abused greatly by people who have some power or influence over masses and associations.

So whatever the powerful person says or does, everyone in the association sides with them. Again we are dealing with conformity. This conformity is due to fear of the person in power.

So is there a solution? I think there is. Question is- how many are willing to make it happen and or take a stand?

Solution can be that we ensure authority falls in the hands of people who know what good to do with it. It’s the responsibility of the people to question the person in charge all the time.

Power must also fall in hands of those who can take a stand for the greater good. Which also means the person should know what is the difference between good, bad and right & wrong. The person should also have the courage it takes to do all that is right and good.

Too idealistic… Well then I want to know what you have in mind? I would like to know your thoughts.


Even fame cannot protect a woman

Yes, even being famous cannot protect woman from being humiliated and scarred. I’m writing about an established actress in the Malayalam film industry. Incidentally, there is news that there is a gang of such men who have been sexually abusing famous women. They film them in duress while being sexually exploited and then they threaten them and extort money.The actress in news, was the only one who bravely exposed them since she didn’t want to encourage them any further after what they did to her. There have been others who have been manipulated by these people in the past.

Funnily the news channels- print and broadcast have gone berserk over the news of the famous South Indian Actress being abducted and sexually assaulted in broad daylight. Sadly the actress, her picture and all that happened to her is all out in the newspaper. And I don’t think that this will help her or her family find any solace.

It is this disturbing news that brings me to think about the perpetrators, five of them identified. She knew them, since one of them was her driver. Scary isn’t it. Now we cant even trust the drivers, chauffeurs, top servants, delivery boys and I don’t know who else. I wonder, if this incident will also be examined and debated by people in the media like the Nirbhaya tragedy.

Here is a woman who is happy, positive, assertive and successful and this is something some people simply cannot handle. And in this case, they felt that by abusing her and recording it and threatening her with exposing the film would pressurise her to release money so that she wouldn’t want to be publicly shamed.

Even today perpetrators think that women are deterred by fear of law, fear of shaming themselves and their families. But I appreciate the courage of this lady to come out and shaming these criminals instead of falling in the trappings of fear and ostracisation from the society.



When I watched Brave

By Celin Thomas

I admit that I wasn’t a great fan of animation as I thought it was meant only for kids. Yeah! I had my set notions as well. But then I saw Hanuman years ago in Theatre; what a spectacle and amazing All Indian creativity. I was impressed and moved.

So I decided that this time, I could dare again and watch another animation flick but this time with my Mom! Interestingly, the movie Brave explores the sensitive details of the Mother-Daughter relationship; stark co-incidence. The extent of love and emotional control they exude onto each other and the consequences of one’s immaturity and pride, etc. Brave deals with all the nitty grittiness of a parent-child equation.

Brave, treads in a light hearted manner, a serious and tough equation between a mother and her kids. Princess Merida is a rebel but without a cause. She wants freedom of choice in the way she wants to be and behave and also in finding her suitor. But her Mom ( Queen) and Father (king) have other plans. To the parents, their daughter is a part of political and military alliance strategy. However, the parents insist on good behaviour and decorum from Merida at all times. Especially the Queen. Needn’t say what happens next.

Princess Merida begins a journey from being a free- spirited girl to a responsible and matured young lady who finds a means to build the bridge that she burnt with her mom under the influence of her pride and learns to understand her mom & her own role as a princess.

Yes, Pride also a sin as per Christianity. Many wars have been fought due to this very trait of human nature. Lets examine Pride again. What is it exactly? An amplified EGO! But one thing is for certain that arrogance in a person’s attitude is an open display of the extent of pride that individual must be harboring within.

So cant it be controlled? Yes it can be. What needs to be controlled essentially is Ego. Ensure that it doesnt lead you to stretch it further to beome pride. Otherwise, the only way to get rid of pride from one’s system will be to actually fall flat on one’s face and suffer humiliation. That’ll certainly be enough suasion to the individual for introspection and retrospecting the actions that may have brought him/her to that state in life.

Ego once controlled can be worn as an ornament.Symbolically the snake on Lord Shiva’s neck does the same job.It still remains a fact that some acquire great realisation by going through intense trauma & adversity while some subject themselves to the devtional and detachment model to achieve absolution or enlightenment.

If one would notice our entire life’s course is dedicated whith this sole purpose of understanding ourselves to adapt and survive situations, circumstances and people. Mainly as we cannot control them but control the way we choose to behave and react to them. Thank god! for that atleast self control, self regulation and self-discipline is in our hands. Having said that both self-regulation & self-discipline are both very tough to achieve.

Coming back to the movie Brave, I had tears in my eyes when Princess Merida in the climax scene weeps in her mother’s bearish embrace and regrets her mistakes and apologises. While her mother is no longer angry with her despite the grave mistake that Merida had done; still she is proud of her daughter’s renewed sense of understanding and the efforts she put in place to set things right in order.

Yes, the finer things in life can be understood only when viewed from a different perspective. As these, perceptions influence our beliefs that impact our decisions & dictate the future course of actions & consequences.