Monthly Archives: December 2014

Is it necessary to have love and respect in a relationship?

Is it necessary to have love and respect in a relationship? I’m beginning to think that maybe its not necessary. But I do think love and respect is required to sustain a relationship. Off lately I have been mulling over a lot of such things mainly because I survived a relationship in the recent past (about 7 years ago) that had no love & definitely no respect.

So what did I do? Well I walked out of it but with a lot of fear, self-esteem issues, feeling like a complete failure. I could muster the courage to walk out only when I realised that there was an imminent threat to my life. I mean when I look back, I feel that I must have been so low in self-esteem to even settle to be in a relationship that had no love, no respect and only walk out when there was a threat to my existence!!!

Ah! When I did walk out, there was support that I found in my family and friends. I owe a lot to my parents, who dealt with me with love, kindness and mercy. Which took me a while to show it all to myself and learn to forgive my self and slowly build my confidence bit by bit.

It has been a long journey since then; it has made me realize a lot of things in the process though. One of the things is that no one is obligated to love and give you respect just because you’re in a relationship.

But the biggest revelation has been this, that having love and mutual respect in a marriage is a true blessing indeed! For those who have it, please do not ask for anything more. And do all it takes to believe in your partner and make it work as long as you both find happiness in your relationship.