The Nature of Love…
By Celin Thomas
So does the nature of love change? Its a question I’m sure many would ask nowadays. And why would they ask? Many reasons; insecurity, lack of love, unable to love themselves or others, experiencing change in an assumed stable relationship.
Yes, we are humans- full of flaws with a divine right to err. And we hurt people in the process, battle egos and gnash teeth even in the name of love. Some say its worth it. I ‘d think its better to fight for something that gives you joy than chase something that the world thinks is comfortable.
Anything you want or desire may not always be easy to come by and if it has come easily to you it may slip just as swiftly without your knowledge. Scary but true. The worst thing that affects our judgement is the lack of self-knowledge, which means we aren’t really sure of what we really want. Believe me that can confuse you to such an extent that you would blindly follow any one who you think is more confident than you. If something is going right in their lives doesn’t mean it’ll be the same for you as well.
So what do you do? Gain clarity of what you want in life. Understand self better, imbibe good qualities only then you’ll know what will suit you and what wouldn’t. If you know yourself then others will not dump their lame ass or smart ass opinions on you and mislead you elsewhere.
Be prepared life takes turns and you may not be ready for what is lined up ahead, so don’t be scared…keep on moving. But don’t be adamant about things and think that people are predictable as per your judgement, they’ll change too as you evolve.
As you can be in and out of love so can they. So what will happen then? Make yourself strong and secure, work on self coz that is all you can actually do as that is all that is in your control. You cant really control people and situations but you can certainly control your behavior, your reaction to such things thrown at you.
But I still strongly believe that ‘The Nature of Love doesn’t change, but over a period of time its expression evolves’. And when the expression changes, we think that the person doesn’t love us anymore. We feel something for somebody today and may not feel the same way about them; its nothing to be scared or to be ashamed of. You’re human and you evolve and so do your expressions.
Have you ever noticed babies expressing love and unconditional affection to their parents and that same baby grows into an adult and though the love is still there; its expression has evolved. So the baby who gave warmth through smiles, hugs & kisses now brings you warm food, cars, flats and many more materialistic things that will make your life comfortable- your baby has grown and has found another way to express his/her emotions.
We have to be ready for change all the time. Whether it is in the professional or personal arena of our lives, so that when the winds of change come they do not destroy us but carry us to a renewed purpose in life.